Today was a relatively uneventful day. We took Mara Ruth to a routine check-up at the clinic. She screamed the entire time, and though I was able to get a few pictures and video to show her one day, we thought it best not to put those up here! On a whole, she seems to be feeling better, and she was full of energy throughout the day. The night belonged to the boys. We found a Mexican restaurant for dinner (which was surprisingly good) and then we came back to the hotel room for doughnuts and movie night. Lord willing, we will travel tomorrow to the city where Mara Ruth was born. On one hand, we are really looking forward to seeing the orphanage where she has lived and meeting the people who have cared for her. On the other hand, we are not necessarily looking forward to an all-day car ride with the kids through winding roads in China (Mara Ruth has so far proven that her stomach is not yet built for these!).
Earlier as I sat on a hotel couch watching a movie with my boys, and now as I sit next to a 16-month girl fast asleep, I am awed by the wonder of adoption. People sometimes wonder if a parent can love a child they adopt in the same way that they love a child who is born biologically into their family. Rest assured—this is not a problem when I look at Caleb, Joshua, and Mara Ruth. My heart sometimes feels like it is literally bursting with love for each of them, and I cannot imagine loving any one of them more…or less. They are without exception fully my children, and I am without hesitation gladly their father.
In this way, simply spending time with my children sometimes seems like a primer on the beauty of salvation. I’m reminded of J.I. Packer’s words:
What is a Christian? The richest answer I know is that a Christian is one who has God as Father. If you want to [know] how well a person understands Christianity, find out how much he makes of the thought of being God’s child, and having God as his Father. If this is not the thought that prompts and controls his worship and prayers and his whole outlook on life, it means that he does not understand Christianity very well at all.
Oh, to know God as Father…what a privilege! Just let it soak in for a minute. God. Your Father. Let this thought, this reality, this pleasure prompt and control you! And to know that this is possible because He has adopted you. Christian, He planned to adopt you, He pursued after you, and He has paid the price for you to become His child (see Ephesians 1:3-14). This is why Packer goes on to say:
Adoption is the highest privilege that the Gospel offers: higher even than justification. This may cause raising of eyebrows, for justification is the gift of God on which since Luther evangelicals have laid the greatest stress, and we are accustomed to say, almost without thinking, that free justification is God’s supreme blessing to us sinners. Nonetheless, careful thought will show the truth of the statement we have just made.
That justification – by which we mean God’s forgiveness of the past together with his acceptance for the future – is the primary and fundamental blessing of the Gospel is not in question. Justification is the primary blessing, because it meets our primary spiritual need. We all stand by nature under God’s judgment. His law convicts us, guilt gnaws at us, making us restless, miserable, and in our lucid moments afraid. We have no peace in ourselves because we have no peace with our Maker. So we need the forgiveness of our sins, and assurance of a restored relationship with God, more than we need anything else in the world. And this the Gospel offers us before it offers us anything else.
But this is not to say that justification is the highest blessing of the gospel. Adoption is higher, because of the richer relationship with God that it involves.
To think of it…in Christ, we have not only been declared right before God the Judge (as if that were not enough). But we have also been loved by God the Father.
Indeed, salvation is not about reciting a superstitious prayer; it’s about receiving the position of a son. I’m reminded of John Wesley, at one time an honor graduate of Oxford University, ordained as a clergyman in the Church of England. He was active in good works—visiting inmates in prison, distributing food and clothes to the needy, and helping slum children and orphans. He studied the Bible rigorously and went to every worship service he could. He gave generously, prayed consistently, and fasted regularly. He event went as a missionary to what was then the British colony of Georgia to serve American Indians. Yet after all this, Wesley was still not a Christian. He later wrote in his journal,
“I who went to America to convert others was never myself converted to God.”
But his next words in that journal entry were most telling. This journal entry, written after he did indeed receive salvation in Christ, contains the following words:
I who went to America to convert others was never myself converted to God. I had even the faith of a servant, though not that of a son.
In other words, Wesley had never come to know God as Father.
Wesley’s story, Packer’s words, and the truth of Scripture beckon each of us to ask, “Do we know God as Father?” Not, “Do you read your Bible? Do you go to church? Have you prayed the prayer? Have you made the decision?” But, “Do you know that you are a child of God, and does His reality as your Father prompt and control your entire being—your thinking, your talking, your feeling, your working, dreaming, your spending, your praying, your studying, your loving, and your living?”
Oh, be reminded today, in the same way that I am reminded this evening next to my three kids (one from Kazakhstan, one from the United States, and one from China), that our Father loves His children without exception and gives to each of them all the staggering privileges that divine sonship affords.

Posted by beth carey on November 26, 2011 at 1:17 pm
The content of your eloquent writing and speech is impacting my understanding, journey, and JOY immeasurably. Grateful beyond words for your messages.
beth
Posted by Carol Dickinson on November 26, 2011 at 11:16 pm
Dido sister!
I agree!
Posted by melissa on November 26, 2011 at 1:33 pm
I feel as though this is the exact journey God has been taking my husband and me the last few months. He has been telling to just be with him, let him love me and have relationship with me.. and the “doing” – the things my heart wants to do because I love him – will come when I am prepared and solidly planted in my understanding of my position as his daughter. thanks again for a great post.
Posted by suzie on November 26, 2011 at 1:39 pm
Yes! I finally realized this year, after being saved for almost all of my life, that God is my FATHER and HE is everything to me. Long story made incredibly short, I found my biological father this year. For most of my life I have hoped that finding him would fill the emptyness and hurt that I have felf for most of my life. There were many ups and downs during this difficult journey, and I was quite suprised to find myself feeling quite alone and in despair after finding him. I sunk to the deepest, sadest moments of my life. I felt so very alone and literally cried out in agony. At my lowest point, I was on my way home from visiting a counselor and in the quiet of my car I heard my Heavenly FATHER say to me, “I am here for you and have always been here for you.” I can tell you that I needed to hear him that day, and I needed to accept him has my real and perfect FATHER that day! I cried as I felt my heart truly fill-up with HIS fullness! I’m gonna write a book one day – “In Search of My Real Father!”
Posted by Phyllis H. Buckman on November 26, 2011 at 2:02 pm
There is nothing I treasure more than my status as an adopted child of God. My Father is here for me all day, every day. All I need do is talk to Him.
Thank you for this beautiful blog, David. I have friends who are adopted, friends who have adopted and my earthly father had been adopted as a child. Adoption is the most loving gift one can give, in my humble opinion, and you and Heather have given three times now. I hope to one day meet the two of you, if not here, then on the streets of gold. I’m honored to call you a brother in Christ.
Phyllis H. Buckman
Fort Worth, Texas
Posted by phebee marr on November 26, 2011 at 3:02 pm
One of my favorite encounters Jesus has with a woman that has been sick for 14 years and she touches the hem of his garment and receives healing…..my favorite part is when He speaks to her…He calls her daughter….to know that God calls me daughter is one of the most treasured gifts I have in salvation. Thanks for sharing!
Posted by L. on November 26, 2011 at 4:19 pm
This is spectacular, David.
You are touching on something that is so fundamentally important for all of us to understand.
The bankruptcy and spiritual poverty of multitudes of western Christians, I suspect, can be traced to not understanding what it really and truly means to be adopted by our Heavenly Father.
It is heartbreaking to think how many adopted Christ followers continue to live as orphans.
My hope in Christ brings me to my knees.
May God continue this good work in you that you would continue to be bread passed.
Posted by jwunderlich on November 26, 2011 at 5:46 pm
Reblogged this on Faith and Family and commented:
This is a must read…
Posted by jwunderlich on November 26, 2011 at 5:49 pm
Great article…
These are my 2 favorite verses:
“The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry, “Abba, Father.” The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children”(Romans 8:15, 16 NIV)
Posted by gwen oatsvall on November 27, 2011 at 4:28 pm
so true … thanks for making the connection between spiritual adoption and physical adoption … it is such an important aspect of our life here … praying for you guys and feel honored to call you friend !!!
Posted by PatrickC on November 28, 2011 at 12:09 pm
I think I struggle with the notion that God is my father. I can see him as my savior and lord, but my own father? It seems too good to be true and I often times find myself feeling unworthy to be called “God’s son” as if equating myself with Christ. Every time I feel I don’t deserve to be called His son, He reminds me that no one deserves it but it is purely by His grace alone.
Posted by Marshall Shelley on May 29, 2012 at 10:59 am
I’ve been a father for 27 years, but a father in law for 5 years, and a grandfather for 10 months now. And each of my children, and sons in law, and grandchild has become a powerful addition to my appreciation for God as Father of us all. I’ll be preaching on that this Father’s Day, and I’m grateful for your sharing the comments from J.I. Packer, David. That says it really really well.